What would it be like to have Taylor Swift as your friend?

Entertainment meets Psychology

Taylor Swift just released her latest album hit “Folklore” one month ago, and her fans are going crazy. Her song “Cardigan” has debuted №1 on the Hot100 list, while the album, Folklore, debuted №1 on the Billboard200 on the week of August 3rd.

Looking at Google keywords search, we find that ‘Taylor Swift’ is the number one searched term on google since the release of Folklore on July 23rd.

In the realm of social media, Taylor Swift’s accounts shine in the top 10 list of both Twitter (6th position), and Facebook (10th position), with 87 Million and 74 Million fans, respectively.

Lots of people love Taylor Swift, and it’s not just because of her songs, amazing as they are. So, let’s take a look at what makes her so popular from a psychological point of view.

What is Taylor Swift’s Personality Type?

In reference to the MBTI personality types model, Taylor Swift is an ENFP with subtype Fi, more commonly known as “The Campaigner”. If you are not familiar with the MBTI model, you can learn more here.

The ENFP, Campaigner, or Creative Idealist personality type sees the world as a place full of opportunities and potential. They usually take on a special mission in life advocating for a specific cause that they deeply resonate with. In Taylor’s case that cause is clear in her songs, as well as in her interview quotes: “Making people kinder to each other”. Following her tweets, we can see that Taylor is a Feminist, Democrat, and pro LGBTQ rights.

“No matter what happens in life, be good to people. Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind.” — Taylor Swift

“Now more than ever, we need to be good and kind to each other. And not judge each other — and just because you have the same taste in men, we don’t hold that against each other.” — Taylor Swift

People can easily relate to ENFPs. They give away an aura of kindness and familiarity. You can easily think of Taylor as being one of your family members, or even a close friend. When you listen to her talking, you don’t feel that you are listening to a well-rehearsed celebrity piece, but rather to genuine, heart-felt, real words.

What would it be like to have Taylor Swift as your Friend?

Adventurous and Supportive

Having her as your friend will mean never-ending exploration of possibilities and ideas. She will depend on her friendship with you and all the experiences you will have together to fuel her creative machine, she will also unleash your powers and encourage you to be the best you can. She will see the best in you even if you don’t see it yet, and will push you to try, experiment, and do what you must succeed.

Affectionate and Genuine

With Introverted Feeling being one of her main cognitive functions, Taylor will be a deeply affectionate and sincere friend. When she is talking to you, she will always be smiling, and she will deliberately look you in the eyes to convey one message, “I genuinely Care.”

In this video, Taylor Swift invited 89 fans over to her mother’s house and spent quality time with them, making a point of talking to and taking photos with each one of them. This might seem to most people as a publicity stunt, but in fact it aligns perfectly with the ENFP idea of fun; having lots of people surrounding her, taking in her words with adoration, and resonating her affection.

Mysterious Disappearances

You might be surprised though when you find her suddenly withdrawing into her own shell and not responding to your calls or messages. ENFPs, although being an extroverted personality type, i.e. generating energy by social interaction, usually find themselves overwhelmed by the amount of responsibilities they took on. They are known to withdraw and recharge in isolation for periods of time ranging from a few hours to a few days. So, don’t hold it against her, she will soon return to her outgoing, cheerful self and she will be the one calling you to take on the next adventure.

The Dark Side

ENFPs can be jealous and bitter at times when they feel that the effort they are putting into the friendship is not being matched or resonated by their friends. This can present a particular challenge for the Introverted personality types, as they tend to drain energy rather quickly in social events and will seem to lose interest in what is going on around them. A repeated pattern of this behavior will trigger the ENFP’s self-defense mechanism and she will probably attack the person and hurt their feelings.

Now, while the present-day 30 years old Taylor Swift is mature enough to understand and appreciate the differences between people, the teenage version of her would have probably given you a hard time, accusing you of not being a true friend, or even of not being a friend at all.

A Full Experience

In conclusion, being friends with Taylor Swift will be an experience worth living. It will give you emotional satisfaction, never-ending adventures, and then of course the occasional scar to remind you that there are no angels on earth.

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